Your Children’s Personality
Every day I experience moments of amazement with my children. The language they use, the actions that take, the brilliant things they do and the naughty things they do. It is all that they have learnt from us and our behaviour. I am struck by the responsibility we have as a parent. The words we use, the way we behave, our likes and dislikes all filter through to our children. It’s truly amazing watching their personalities develop and their characteristics mimic our best and worst traits are parents.
I have three boys, Dylan 9, Josh 7 and Jack 4. I have recently been struck by so many situations that felt so familiar, maybe because I hold those values to dear to my heart, or behave in the same way.
Football Parents Evening
On Thursday of last week, we attended Dylan’s parents evening at Cambridge United. He was signed up this time last year to join the elite squad of football academy boys and had to say goodbye to his grassroots club and school mates. One year on there is no looking back, he is an amazing football player, and it’s not just me and hubby saying that, the coaches love him. What stands out is their comments about his personality.
He is so focussed, intent on doing everything to make himself the best player. He stays focussed for every minute he is on the field and every minute in training. Distraction is not something that ever impacts Dylan, and sometimes too quietly get on with the given task. Being part of a team is really important to him, he will pass the ball off when the time is right and shows skills beyond his years. When it’s his turn to lead the team, he commands respect. Proud doesn’t describe enough of what we feel about how he has done.
I can totally relate to this focus and ambition he has, which must have come from me. When I know I am good at something I will get there 100%. I have always been like that with aims and goals. I have always had ambitions to improve myself and get to the next level, the next job or start my business.
The kindness badge
Dylan has just been awarded the kindness badge for the second time in the past few months. There are three badges at school, behaviour, effort and kindness. They are all great to get but I love the kindness badge and what it means. He consistently gets it for helping his learning partners to ensure they are comfortable and understanding everything. This week he even stayed back with his partner at lunch to help with the school tasks.
I have always said that kindness gets you far in life. Be polite and friendly and you will get so much back in return. I recently made friends with the waitress at the Aria buffet 2 weeks ago, our unlimited booze was only meant to last 2 hours, but she kept bringing us new drinks again and again and again. We ended up sitting there for 4 hours. Friendliness help financially too! I like to think that I am well known in my corporate career and my blogging career for my polite and friendly manner. Particularly now, people know they can come to me for advice and guidance and be met with virtual and real smile.
Josh the entrepreneur
Josh was asking me the other day how old you need to be before starting a business. I replied there is no minimum or maximum age. You can start a business when you are 7 or 70. So this got him thinking. He started going through our giant toy pile and worked out what could be sold. I explained that we could sell lots of things on EBay or Facebook. If its heavy it goes on Facebook, lighter is fine for eBay! He completely gets the process and how to make money out of it. When it came to the profit he asked for 50%. I said no, he then asked for 25%, I said no, but I did offer 10%. Which he gratefully accepted when I explained he could have £10 from every £100 we made.
Bless him, he not learnt the art of negotiation quite yet. But he has thought of a business name, Mr Boypenny. Love him.
Josh also plays football and has been signed a year early into the academy scheme at Cambridge United as well. He has got brilliant talent, possibly more than Dylan two years ago, and he is left footed. But the focus and determination, um no. He’s not bothered! He wouldn’t be bothered if he didn’t play football at all in a day, where Dylan would be playing at every given opportunity.
Josh has my temper and boy have we seen it in its scary force. You tell him not to do something, he just ignores you and does it. And then laughs at you. And stubbornness, he’s even more stubborn than me and that’s saying something.
He has the most confidence out of all three boys. He makes friends easily and is relaxed in any situation with adults and children. At events he will rock up to the local mayor and ask them a question (he did this at the panto at Christmas), he has appeared in TV adverts (Aldi likes his confidence and cheeky smile for school uniform advertising). Vlogs are his things and he often appears in my YouTube vlogs, he just loves being the centre of attention. Another trait inherited from me.
Jack the baby
Who hates being called a baby. He is four so the personality is still developing. He loved order and routine which is a trait that comes from hubby. I would love some order and structure to my life but I think I thrive from change and disorder!
Being the youngest he somewhat rules the roost, which we have of course pandered to. When he screams, and cries we give in for an easy life. As do Dylan and Josh to be honest. Sometimes we just want peace and quiet! He loves to do the big boys things that he sees his brothers doing so have grown up quicker than other children. He wants to get dressed by himself, brush his teeth, turn on the TV by himself.
Jack starts school in September, I can’t believe this has happened so quickly and my baby is growing up. I know that will change his personality. Both my older boys changed a lot after starting big school, both for the better.
I am so proud of what my boys are growing into. My boys that will always be there to look after their mum (hopefully with huge footballer salaries!)